Bangladesh
Age of marriage
It is customary for marriages in Bangladesh to be arranged by the parents
of both the parties involved. Traditionally, Bangladeshi men tend to
be older than women when entering into marriage. For example, men in
their twenties tended to marry girls in their teens. Recent trends
suggest that both sexes are starting to marry slightly later, largely
due to the changes in lifestyle as a result of education and economic
factors. However, women in particular are still encouraged to marry
young, with recent studies suggesting the average age is 16.7 years.
Dowry
Dowries are in theory banned but the social practice continues despite
government legislation. They are negotiated by the parents of both
couples and are given by both sides in the match. Men give land and
women give money and household furnishings. This is slightly different
to the situation within the Bangladeshi community within Britain. There,
men give dowries in the form of money and gold, whilst women only have
to furnish the house, particularly by providing household appliances.
In the event of a divorce, the woman can keep her dowry unless she
instigates the divorce proceedings (khul’).
Divorce
A divorced woman becomes a non-person. She is usually disowned by her
parents or family and the accompanying stigma can also affect other
female relations and even her children. Regardless of circumstance,
a woman is always blamed if there is a divorce - people believe that
she must have been an inadequate wife for a man to divorce her. She
is highly unlikely to get remarried. People believe that the rest of
the family must be bad and an alliance with such a family would be
a disgrace, which therefore affects the marriage choices of her relatives.
Family life
It is still traditional for the newly married couple to live with the
man’s family, although this is not always the case. Once a woman
has children, her first duty is to look after them, so she rarely works
outside the home unless there is no alternative. When couples cannot
have children, men will sometimes divorce their wife, or take another
wife. Childlessness is usually seen to be the fault of the women rather
than the man on such occasions. Women rarely have access to - or openly
use - contraception, often resulting in large families.
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